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ImageSomewhere in the world right this minu . . . . No no, let me begin again.

Everywhere in the world right this second, there is a man telling a woman what to do. What to do, where to go, what she may or may not say, wear, or drink. He is also telling her what is expected of her—her roles, her aspirations and how she may or may not think. She toes the line, she is a lady, she does not and she is a bitch. He has these rights, not because he is her boss or her superior, or older, but because by a stroke of chance—his father sending the Y chromosome to his mother instead of the X, which would give us the XX combo (girl child) —he is a man. Somewhere also out there, there is a woman who thinks that this is acceptable. That it is the natural order.

fem·i·nism [fémmə nìzzəm] noun

1.  belief in women’s rights: belief in the need to secure rights and opportunities for women equal to those of men, or a commitment to securing these

2.  movement for women’s rights: the movement committed to securing and defending rights and opportunities for women that are equal to those of men

[Mid-19th century. < French féminisme]

-fem·i·nist, noun adjective

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Feminism is not male hating or male bashing. God knows I love men (go on, get your mind out of the gutter).

Feminism is not simply a desire to go about naked although the idea is I can if I want to, without having any man assuming the right to tell me whether or not I may. That’s the thing, you may not tell me I may or may not.

Feminism is not trying to be a man (as my flatmate likes to say “shei you say you are a man”). No I am not a man! That suggests that being a man is a superior or more desirable thing to be, and I disagree.  We are different but equal. Can you understand this? Different strengths and abilities—for instance, I can have a baby and you cannot, hell, thanks to science, I can have a baby without you—but does this make me claim I am somehow higher placed than you are? No, it means that in this instance, I can and you can’t, just as there are things you can and I cannot.

Feminism is not synonymous with lesbianism. What does that even mean?

It is simply that what is good for the geese is equally good for the gizzard (sic). That said, I am a feminist. No buts. Don’t trash it if you haven’t tried it. Don’t beat it up if you do not understand it. If you are not a feminist, leave it alone.

And if your life, social conditions and/or environment are so evolved that you think the idea of/need for affirmative action is dated, irrelevant and/or redundant, stop being so selfish. Step outside your comfort zone and look around.

And if as a woman, you say you are not equal to a man, while I understand that you are a product of society, the present and emerging society is also a product of you and you are part of the problem and shame on you.

If you repent, you can still make heaven. The heaven that is a place where gender equality is a reality.

Disclaimer; Dear woman, if you insist he open the door for you (it’s not that heavy, you should try it sometime), pay your bills and all the other small acts of “chivalry” that you demand, not because he is better placed or able to provide these services, but because by chance, your father sent an XX chromosomal combo to the party, this is not for you.